It's Time to Heal and Learn How to Love YourSelf
FREE MINI-TRAINING: LEARNING TO LET GO
The biggest part of being able to Heal is Letting Go of limiting beliefs and negative thoughts about your own Self. But, as you well know, Letting Go is hard to do. There are several reasons for this:
- Lack of Awareness: often you aren't even aware that you are holding onto something, and you can't see how it's harming you.
- Reward: there's an underlying payoff that keeps reinforcing your continued thoughts, behaviour, and choices.
- Comfort Zone: the experience has been going on for so long that it has created strong neural pathways in your brain, resulting in an energetic frequency lock that keeps you firmly in the same patterns. In other words, it's easier and takes less effort to take the well-worn path, than to hack your way through the tangled forest to create a new one.
So, in order to truly Let Go, you will need a Breakthrough. You will need to literally break through the frequency resonance vibration that currently has you locked in, so that you can take a step up.
TO ACHIEVE A BREAKTHROUGH, YOU WILL NEED TO:
1. Identify the Problem: take an honest look at yourself and your situation to realize what needs changing. What patterns keep repeating? How does it make you feel?
2. Get to the Root. What is it? Where did it come from? What is the payoff (why am I doing it)? And although it may have served a purpose before, how is it no longer positively serving you now? How is it limiting you and keeping you playing small?
HINT: It's not what someone else is doing to you. It's what/why You are allowing it.
3. Learn the Lesson: look deeper than the surface problem. What is it trying to teach you? What is the lesson? What is the situation reflecting about yourself?
NOTE: you won't achieve a breakthrough unless it's an A-ha! moment. You have to truly get it. That's why no one can tell you. You have to experience it for yourself to unlock the deeper realization.
4. Forgive: Once the lesson is realized, forgiveness is the most important step to moving forward. Not so much forgiving others involved (if that's the case) because you need to understand that they played an important role in your lesson. You need to understand that they were, in fact, your teachers. The one you need to forgive is YourSelf. You made the choices you did that led to this situation. But you had to. It had to happen that way so that you could Learn and Grow. Now you know better so that you can make better choices from now on.
IMPORTANT: True healing will not take place until you realize your part in it, take responsibility for it, and forgive YourSelf.
5. Create a New Pattern: Creating a new more positive pattern will take time because you have to get in deeper touch with yourself to know yourself and what is best for you without outside interference.
6. Stay on Track: Also, that well-worn path of least resistence that is already created in your mind will keep luring you back. As you try to build a new path, you will keep running up against resistence and obstacles. So you need to know the path you want to build, a strong will to keep at it, and strategies to keep you on track so that you can groove that new pattern.
